I’m a Mexican-American woman who grew up in an environment that left me constantly asking one question:
Why?
Why were things happening the way they were?
Why did my home life feel different from everyone else’s?
Why did I react the way I did?
But I was never given the tools to understand it.
I wasn’t taught how to process emotions.
I wasn’t taught that it was okay to feel them, let alone express them.
For a long time, I thought that was just how life was.
I Wasn’t Always This Confident
I Struggled, In More Ways Than One
What I experienced at home didn’t stay at home.
It followed me into school, into my decisions, and into how I saw myself.
I was a B/C student.
I started working at 13 just to keep up with the life my friends were living.
Work became my priority.
School came second.
I almost didn’t graduate high school.
I Tried to Escape Instead of Understand
At 18, I enlisted in the Navy.
Not because I had everything figured out,
but because I didn’t.
The day I was supposed to leave for bootcamp, my enlistment fell through.
A medical issue. A denied waiver.
Just like that, the plan I was relying on was gone.
And I was left exactly where I didn’t want to be,
with myself.
I Felt Lost
I quit my job.
I avoided school.
I was unmotivated, confused, and honestly… depressed.
I didn’t know who I was.
I didn’t know what I wanted.
And for a while, I did everything I could to avoid figuring it out.
I worked different jobs.
Tried different paths.
Avoided going back to school.
Everything Changed When I Took Ownership
At 24, I ran out of distractions.
And for the first time, I made a decision:
I was going to give school everything I had.
No shortcuts. No excuses.
I moved back home.
Asked my family for support.
And committed fully to becoming a student.
At the same time, I started going to therapy again.
And that’s where everything started to make sense.
I Finally Understood the “Why”
I began to understand:
why I reacted the way I did
how my environment shaped me
and that my patterns weren’t “just who I was”
They were learned.
And if they were learned… they could be changed.
I Rebuilt My Life: Intentionally
I made the Dean’s List every semester.
Studied abroad in Costa Rica.
Graduated with my associate’s degree.
I went from almost not graduating high school…
to believing I was capable of earning a bachelor’s degree.
I got involved.
Rebuilt an esports brand.
Led marketing and recruitment.
And eventually…
I helped build InnovateU, a student leadership summit focused on bridging the gap between school and the real world.
That’s Where I Found My Voice
Through InnovateU, I stepped into something I never thought was possible:
Public speaking.
Not just talking,
but connecting.
Leading.
Impacting.
That experience showed me:
I wasn’t just someone with a story
I was someone who could help others understand theirs
Now, I speak to students and young adults about the things I had to figure out on my own.
Those that are in that same in-between space.
The space where you:
don’t fully recognize who you were
but haven’t become who you want to be yet
I don’t just talk about motivation.
I help people understand:
why they think the way they do
how their environment shaped them
and how to start making different choices
Because This Is What I Know For Sure
I’ve been rejected.
Redirected.
Lost.
Confused.
More times than I can count.
But I also know this:
You are not stuck.
You are not your environment.
You are not your past.
You are not your patterns.
And once you understand that, everything can change.
This isn’t just what I do.
It’s what I wish someone had taught me sooner.
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